Monday, October 29

On October 30, 1940...





this woman gave birth to me, then gave me to my adoptive parents. I didn't meet her until I was 57, and I have seen her three or four times since then. We visited again last August, when I went back to my home town for a school reunion. Our story has been told here several times, but in case you haven't read it, go here. Today, I am 67, and it is hard to imagine, but she and I both are still going strong. Life handed her lemons, but she made lemonade every single time. Maybe it's genetic.








36 comments:

BreadBox said...

Judy, Have a wonderful birthday tomorrow! Michele sent me this time (even though you just pipped me at the post for first comment on the site of the day!)

N.

Tia said...

What an amazing story! And you tell it quite beautifully. Have you written anything that has been published about your experiences? I could see this being enormously helpful to others. (I am especially thinking about adopted teens who are in the throws of struggling with their identities?)

You two look beautiful, by the way. =)

OldOldLady Of The Hills said...

Dear Dear Judy...HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!

I hope you have a wonderful day, my dear....You deserve to be waited on and pamoered and treated like a Queen...And they all better be good to you or The Goblins will get them...(lol)

All kidding aside, I do dearly hope toy have a very special day, my dear!

OldOldLady Of The Hills said...

"...Hope YOU have a very special day..." AND
That should read PAMPERED....LOL!
Lord help me with this one-finger typing....(Well, my hearts in the right place even if my fingers aren't....! (lol)

Reflekshins said...

Happy Birthday Judy!! Best to you and your BM

Marty said...

What a beautiful picture! Happy Birthday.

Evil Twin's Wife said...

Happy Birthday! And, I can't wait to meet my birth mom. She and my bio sister plan to visit me in January. Isn't it special to feel so wanted by a bunch of people? You have the greatest birthday, ever!

.:mar said...

Wishing you a wonderful birthday, kenju!! Have a fabulous day with your loved ones. Your story is very moving...

Anonymous said...

You are twice blessed with two moms...? Have a good birthday.

Tabor

Alan G said...

It's me....your birthday mate!

Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
But your a year older,
What's a young man to do?...lol

Happy Birthday Judy!! Have a good one and I'll do the same!

Bob-kat said...

Many happy returns. I hope you have a wonderful day.

That is a lovely picture of you adn your bith Mother BTW :)

ET said...

I can't imagine what either of you must have felt, then and now.

Nancy said...

Happy Birthday, Judy !

The picture of you and your Mom is beautiful.

I read the story of your adoption and it captivated me .

You have a wonderful style of writing and I read every word with interest......

kenju said...

ALAN, I didn't remember that we shared our birthdates! I hope yours is wonderful! Mine will be; I'm going out with a dear, old friend for Mexican food!

Merle said...

Dear Judy ~~ Sorry I didn't know before that your birthday was today. So a very Happy Birthday and I hope you have had a wonderful celebration
and enjoyed your special day. I have read your story before and you have
written it so well. Thank you for sharing it with us. Glad you enjoyed my jokes. Take care, I hope your husband is doing well. Love, Merle.

Changes in the Wind said...

Must be in the genes as you say..you both look GREAT!!
Happy Birthday and.....many more:)

Smiler said...

That's a very touching picture, especially given the context. Happy birthday to you and may I just say you don't at all look your age? Whatever you're doing, just keep doing it! :-)

tiff said...

Happy birthday Judy!

Mr Kenju cookin'? :>

tiff said...

that should have read: is Mr Kenju cookin' dinner for ya?

Have an enjoyable day.

trinamick said...

Beautiful picture. It's always nice to add another name to the list of loved ones.

Sky said...

Happy Birthday, Judy! Today is my sister's birthday and my brother-in-law's birthday, too!

I just read the story about your adoption and birth parents, etc. It is a fascinating story, all the coincidences of connection with places, etc. Pretty amazing, don't you think? I am glad your BM made contact and that you learned the real facts about your family of origin.

Have a happy day!

utenzi said...

Happy belated birthday, Judy. I hope you had some nice presents to unwrap! :-)

Beverly said...

Dear Judy,
Happy birthday! I'm just now getting around to reading everyone's posts, and it is 7:30 in the evening.
I haven't read your story yet, but I'm on my way now. I hope you had a good Mexican dinner with your friend.
See you on Thursday.

OldOldLady Of The Hills said...

Judy, I saw your comment over at Utenzi's about MAD MEN...I think AMC is starting it all over again on this THURSDAY NIGHT....It is really a Steller series....! So, try to watch it or DVR it or something...I noticed this in TV Guide. I hope they correct about this!
Hope you are having a lovely Birthday today, my dear.

Mildred Garfield said...

Happy Birthday Judy!!!

The impression I have from reading your posts, you sound like you are in your 50's.

You have lots of spirit, positive attitude, a giving nature and love life!

Keep it up girl!!

Wishing you all good things this coming year.

Diane Mandy said...

What a wonderful story! Happy happy birthday!

Weary Hag said...

And lucky BM as well, don't forget! Little could she have known what a marvelous, witty, charming and full-brained individual she gave birth to.

Dammit I hate that I missed your birthday, Judy. I'm sure your friends and family made it as lovely as you deserved.

Many, many more, my friend. And the photo? Priceless! Man, you really do have it all, don't you?

audrey` said...

Happy Birthday, Judy =)

Carolyn said...

I hope your day was great! And what a great story you have behind it :)

Shephard said...

...and being a Scorpio doesn't hurt either. Suvivors, extraordinaire.

Happy Happy Happy Birthday, Judy!
~S ;)

sage said...

Nice post--nice pic too

ribbiticus said...

you are both lovely women whom time has tested and made stronger with each storm. belated happy birthday, dear! :)

joared said...

A belated happy birthday wish to you.

Jennifer said...

What a beautiful photograph, Judy, and a lovelier story. I'm sorry to be so late to the party, but I hope your birthday was everything you wished for and then some. Here's to the coming year bringing all things good and wonderful your way.

Farrago said...

I have no children, so I can't even begin to imagine how it must feel to even consider giving up a child, and I know the ties are stronger for a woman.

How great she must feel to see that her baby grew up to be the wonderful, thoughtful, loving, caring person you are. That something so traumatic as giving up a child was revealed to her late in life as the right choice will warm her soul for the rest of her life.

On a side note... Judy, I must say I'm proud of you. I didn't realize your age until I read this post. I think it's great that you have a computer and use it regularly.

A few years back, as he slowly lost the use of his hands, rendering his handwriting impossible to read, we tried to get my father, now age 84, to use a computer to communicate with a friend overseas. He refused. He was willing to use a typewriter, but he couldn't think of what to say, and so never wrote anything.

Mrs. Farrago's father, on the other hand, owns a computer and uses it daily, but I think he is extremely rare for his age group (he's 74 soon).

I hope I don't sound patronizing. A lot of people my own age are afraid of the computer, while kids who were born with a computer in their homes wield them like another appendage!

If you faced your computer for the first time with trepidation, or fear, even, then bravo! to you for overcoming that fear and pressing onward. Otherwise, I'd never have had the pleasure of reading you.

Farrago said...

And another one more thing... :-)

I realized after sending the prior tome (sorry!) that I hadn't read the story of your adoption.

Have you done, or are you interested in doing any genealogy on your Bparents?

I can imagine it might stir up sadness or bitterness, but if not, it would be interesting research.