Repondez s'il vous plait......I trust you know what that phrase means. Apparently, many people do not, and for those who are expecting an answer to the phrase, not getting one can be frustrating or infuriating. So if you are not sure what it means, please click on the links and get educated.
Mr. kenju is in a club, the members of which are mostly males. It was decided recently that they would take a number of their members out to dinner, in order to thank and congratulate them for a job well done, in regards to their recent public expo. A message was sent well in advance, giving the necessary details and asking for prompt responses. It is imperative that he knows the number of people to expect, so that the restaurant can be set up properly for them. Only eight or nine of them have responded (the date is June 1) and mr. kenju is at his wits end because of it. Common courtesy dictates that one responds when asked = when the initials "RSVP" are shown at the end of a letter or an invitation.
With weddings and any special events, it is especially imperative that one responds with a yes or no, unless the phrase "Regrets Only" is appended. With that, you only respond if you cannot attend. The hosts of special events of any type, must give their event sites and caterers a final number of people expected to attend. All preparation is based on that number, and while event sites and caterers are supposed to be able to serve a minimum of 10% more than the guaranteed number - you wouldn't want to take the chance of running out of space or food. If you RSVP in the affirmative to an event and then you don't show up, the hosts are obligated to pay for you anyway. If you don't answer at all, they may expect you anyway, and they pay for you whether you are there or not. How can anyone be so inconsiderate as to not let people know if they will or will not attend?
I know very well how maddening this can be. When my daughter was planning her wedding, the guest list was carefully thought out. Towards the cut-off date for responses, we were pulling our hair out by the roots because so many of her young friends (and a few of their parents) had not responded., even though we included a stamped, self-addressed response card in the invitation. We decided we had to call them, since I was NOT going to guarantee people who weren't planning to come. Time after time, the person said "We thought you KNEW we were going to be there!!" or "Oh, yes, we're coming." I guaranteed 125 people and at the end of the reception, there had been 119. Six people who said they would be there did not show up, and only one of them had a good excuse (his mother was taken to the hospital that day). We paid through the nose for five of those people, who didn't even have the common decency to let us know why they hadn't attended. It really made me mad, and it was completely unnecessary. Because of our diligence in contacting people, we were better off than many people I know, who ended up guaranteeing many more guests than they actually had and spending gobs more money than necessary. Wedding are so stressful and more expensive than they should be and this adds considerably to both.
Do your hosts a favor; the next time you receive an invitation to a wedding, dinner or other special event - let them know immediately whether you will be able to attend!