Sunday, October 4

I Really Did Have My Camera + Sad News

We went out to dinner Friday night with my cousin and her husband. I had my camera in my purse, and I had every intention of photographing them, the food and the restaurant. Guess what? The camera stayed in my purse and I didn't even think about it! Some kind of blogger I am!

I can, however, tell you about it. Our waiter at Nina's was Rory and he was so cute I could hardly keep my eyes off him. He was excellent at his job, too, so I hope the guys tipped him well! I had calamari and eggplant saltiletto, which I have rhapsodized about in these pages before (but can't find). It was even better than I remembered! My cousin had salmon and pronounced it excellent. The guys each had veal piccata and marsala; there were no complaints heard, and their plates were cleaned. We shared 2 servings of tiramisu for dessert - heaven in a bite. I recommend it!

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While at my florist wholesale Saturday, my cell phone rang. I recognized the number, but I turned off the ringer because I was in a conversation I didn't want to stop. After I left, I called her back. It was my birth mother's daughter, telling me that our mother died that morning (she was 86). At her request, there will be no funeral or memorial service. I'm to get more details tonight.


25 comments:

John said...

Even without the camera, you described the food wonderfully. Everything sounded good, especially the Tiramisu, Mmmmm.

I'm so sorry to hear that your mother passed away. That can't be easy to hear. It is becoming more and more common for people to request no funeral. I don't really understand that, but then again there are many things I don't understand.

Gilly said...

I'm so sorry about your mother. And no funeral! Its much harder to say goodbye without the closure of a funeral, I think.

I get scared nowadays, so many peoploe who die are my age, or within 10 years of my age, or even younger. And yet I think I would like to go now. Contrary woman that I am!


The food sounded wonderful! My son-in-law is called Rory, I wouldn't call him cute, but he is cuddly and really nice!

Tabor said...

Both my mother and father did not want funerals. We did have a family dinner in memorial and also scattered their ashes just recently...perhaps I should get the courage to blog about that.

Alan G said...

I'm not sure Judy why you are so puzzled about why you forgot you had a camera in your purse?

Perhaps you need to go back and re-read your post.... something about Rory and not being able to keep your eyes off him. lol

bobbie said...

I am so sorry to hear of your birth mother's death. I agree with her wish for no formal funeral. They can be a real trial for the family, and I would rather be remembered as I lived, not in death. There can always be an informal memorial of some kind later, if the family wishes.

Star said...

I am so sorry for your loss Judy. I am glad you found your birth mother and had some time with her.

Arkansas Patti said...

I am so sorry about your birth mother. This has to be hard for you on many levels.
I can understand the lack of funeral though.
We had none for my father at his request, and it is like he has just gone away to another town and we will meet again. The pain of a funeral was gone.
It is now also my request.

Peter said...

Sorry to hear about the passing of your mother Judy, I prefer the closure of a funeral though I think.

Carolyn said...

I'm sorry to hear about your birth mother Judy. I'm sure you must be going thru some emotions right now. {{Hugs}}

Evil Twin's Wife said...

I'm sorry to hear about your birth mom's passing. But, I'm glad you were able to connect with her and get to know her.

Nikki-ann said...

I carry my camera most places and yes, I sometimes forget to take photos too! :)

I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Take care.

Darlene said...

My I offer condolences on the loss of your birth mother.

I understand about not having a funeral. A celebration of life is a much nicer closing, I think. Some funerals are so depressing, that that is what you focus on instead of the pleasant things you want to remember.

I think it should be left up to the closest relatives on the decision of whether to have a funeral or not. It is, after all, for them. Closure does not have to be painful.

utenzi said...

Not knowing her for most of your life probably makes for mixed emotions now. Condolences on your loss, Judy.

Mahala said...

I'm so sorry :( *hugs*

Pat said...

My deepest sympathy Judy. Take it easy - these sad events take their toll when you least expect it.
I find it helps when there is no funeral to attend to spend some time devoted to that person whether in a place you knew together or reading her letters or just reflecting on her life.

LL Cool Joe said...

Sorry to hear about your birth mother.

The meal sounds great! I forget to take my camera with me all the time. I often think about all those missed opportunities.

Inanna said...

*Hugs* and thinking of you.

I want a Rory...

Looking to the Stars said...

Sorry, for your loss. I had a birth mother and a genetic mother. My birth mother passed away 3 years ago and I went to her funeral. One of her sons asked me to leave. My birth mother was chosen by my parents because she was a dead look alike for my mom. When I walked into the funeral home, the employees were shocked and said they were seeing ghosts, I looked so much like her.


People don't understand that you are connected to your birth mother, even if you don't want to be, there is no choice. Take care, kiddo.

NellJean said...

I am saddened by the news, Judy.

joared said...

My sympathies on the death of your birth mother. I don't know what your relationship with her was, but nevertheless I'm sure her loss must have significant import to you.

Your earlier restaurant dinner sounded delicious.

sage said...

The food sounds wonderful--I'll have to make not of the place the next time I'm in NC. Sorry to hear about your birth mother. I'm can imagine that the news conjures up all kinds of thoughts. Hang in there.

Carmi said...

Hi Judy. I've been so immersed in life stuff on my end that I've been completely silent everywhere else.

Please know I'm thinking of you and sending you only good thoughts as you mourn the loss of your birth mom. May her memory always be a blessing to you, and may your example always be a light for others who follow your lead.

Anonymous said...

Thinking of you during this difficult time. I'm so sorry.
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OldOldLady Of The Hills said...

So sorry to read of your Birth Mother's passing Judy...I recall the different posts you have shared with all of us over these last years....My heart goes out to you my dear. I hope her passing was peaceful.

Your Dinner sounds quite scrumptious, my dear....Including the very yummy dessert!

colleen said...

So sad about your birth mother. I hope you are okay. I think memorials are important for those of us still here.