Wednesday, May 12





Does he really think that sign will help sell his house?

Driving down a main road yesterday, I saw three consecutive houses for sale. Must be a whole row of assh*les, right? Would you wonder what was going on there?

Our neighborhood can go for several years with no houses available, and then POW - all of a sudden several go on the market. Four of the largest homes are for sale now and one smaller. Out of an area with only 65 or so homes, that is a lot at one time. I wonder if the recent troubles with the Home Owner's Board had anything to do with the decisions to sell. I know it didn't with one home; it is owned by a widow who needs to downsize, but the other families/duos seem ideally suited to the size of their homes - so it isn't clear why they are leaving. Do you ever get curious about things like that?

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Today is my adoptive mother's birthday; she'd be 104. She died when I was about 45, and for the next 14 years, I was "a motherless child". Then I met my birth mother and started the "getting to know you" process all over again. Now she is gone as well, and I am back to being motherless. You never get over losing your mother, do you? My adoptive mom and I didn't have the best of relationships near the end of her life, so what I miss is what it was like many decades ago. I suppose I've been thinking about her since Mother's Day came and went. I miss what could have been...and grieve for that.

19 comments:

Fran aka Redondowriter said...

My mom has been gone since 1967 and I think of her daily. At what age were you adopted? I'm glad you got to have a relationship with your birth mom, too.

Gilly said...

No way would I buy that house!! I think house selling is just rising again after the "credit crunch". And the spring makes people think of selling.

Its hard losing one's mother - and to lose two must be even harder. My Mum thought I was 'hard' as I tried to do the practical things to make her life easier, whereas my sister was the one who sat and cried with her. Ah well, life's like that, I suppose!

Tabor said...

My mother an I were just the opposite. Our relationship got better when I had to take care of her in the waning years, but maybe I just felt that way because I was the one in charge then. A lot of houses are underwater. People owe more than they are worth or than they paid. My daughter is about 50-100,000 under, I think. But since they have no plans to move in the coming years, they are going to stay and hope it comes back up in value.

Star said...

We have a lot of homes for sale all at once here to. If I remember correctly , when we moved in it was the same way. Must be a cyclical occurrence.

Granny Annie said...

You have such a kind and generous heart so I cannot imagine what came between you and your adoptive mother. If only she could see how much you cherish your memories of growing up with her and your dad. It had to be a real treasure for your biological mom to know you in her lifetime. Many children of adoption seem to have problems but as many children who aren't adopted have as many problems,just not the same kind. Kids! Can't live with them, can't live without them -- for sure!

tiff said...

Just be nosey and ask why they're selling. Then be sure to report back here, mmmkay?

I'm fortunate to still have my mom around. She gets smarter every year, which is weird.

Mahala said...

((Big Hugs)) from a birth mother who gets so much comfort knowing you were able to know and love yours. (And now you know one more of my deep dark secrets :)

Arkansas Patti said...

Have had trouble leaving a comment earlier--error message. Am trying again.
I'm sure that sign helped his frustration unless it was the real assho** trying kill the street sales.
I also had two mothers, Makes their loss twice as hard.

oklhdan said...

I was fortunate to have a wonderful relationship with my mother my entire life. I hope my daughters are able to say the same about me.

Pat said...

There goes the neighbourhood!
I've been an orphan now for ten years but like Fran I think of Mum daily and Dad often and my Gran every time I deal with laundry.

Evil Twin's Wife said...

As you know, I found my bio mom shortly after my adoptive mom passed away. While she will never "take the place" of mom, it's been really cool getting to know her.

LL Cool Joe said...

Mother's Day is a tough time for me. I don't know my birth mother and I don't want to, but my real mother (Adoptive) isn't an easy person to get along with. She never has been, but I still love her, but I can't sing her praises like most children can about their mother's.

srp said...

Here, with so much military, the houses tend to go up when orders are due... like now. Some end up renting them out for a time and others do sell. Such a hassle... I never want to really own another home.

Looking to the Stars said...

I loved the sign and yes I do wonder when someone moves out of our neighborhood.

I had 3 so called mothers. My genetic mother, my birth mother and my foster mother. None of them where real mothers. I consider my genetic mother my real mother. Close to her death she said she was sorry that she had not felt motherly to me and now that she did, it was too late. I struggle a lot with the mother issue.

Sounds like you have more under control than I do. Take care, kiddo

Linda said...

I don't think that first person really means to sell that house, they just want to world to know their neighbor is an ass.... I have a brother-in-law who would stoop to something like that.

Tabor said...

Thanks for the dandelion update. I should have known that a flower person would have the 411. I love tooth of the lion...very exotic.

Darlene said...

I lost my mother 40 years ago and still miss her. It never goes away.

OldOldLady Of The Hills said...

So true, Judy. Missing the things that could have been based on what was, a long time before. I Sooo get it!

LOVE that For Sale sign.....LOL!

Shephard said...

I love the sign!
But you're right... as a buyer, I'd RUN! lol
~S